Leaf Peeping in Hudson Valley

One day in the middle of July, I was pining for fall in a way that made me start stalking the Farmer's Almanac to see when leaves would peak up north. I spontaneously booked a trip to Sleepy Hollow, a place I have always wanted to go because spooky season is fun and I am a lit nerd. Shelley reminded me that we are saving for a wedding and already had a trip planned to Orlando for a friend's wedding, but I had already booked, so what could be done? (Part of my plan!)


We began the drive early on Friday morning with sandwiches and bags stuffed into my little Mazda hatchback, Arlandria. Road trip-ready with a playlist prepped, we drove... and drove... and drove to New York.

Stopped off on the way to see this lookout

The 6 and a half hours were nothing compared to the over double that time we had done down to Orlando a few weeks prior. We took back roads and were able to truly enjoy the colors of the leaves, which honestly took my breath away.

When we first arrived in Hudson Valley, before we even brought our bags in, we were down walking along the river and playing on the pebbled beach.

Hudson River 

Exploring the Hudson 

We stayed in a little bed and breakfast called Casa Hudson, which overlooks the Hudson River. The place was clean, the breakfast was minimalist and good, and the owners were kind. Plus, the view!

This view!

Casa Hudson

That night, one of the first things that drew me to Sleepy Hollow in the first place was the Great Jack O'Lantern blaze-- over 7,000 carved pumpkins arranged in various displays. Carousels, windmills, trains, bridges-- it was amazing to see, like Christmas at Halloween. If you go for no other reason, make it to see this.

A bridge of pumpkins!

Now we know why he is screaming...

Shells walking into the bridge of pumpkins 

The next morning after breakfast, we put on our hiking boots and headed out to a place recommended to us at the B&B called Bear Mountain. It gets its name-- you guessed it-- from the large bear population, but thank goodness we didn't see any or I wouldn't be typing this now.

Bear State Park 

Hiking (again, Sorel boots for the win!)

We started out near a waterfall (surprise!). Anyone who has followed this blog for any amount of time knows that's kind of our thing, so after a gorgeous hike up the mountain, we trudged back down-- which was somehow more treacherous than going up-- and lunched on a ledge above the waterfall.

Lunchtime picnic at a waterfall

<3 

So many gorgeous leaves 

The colors were seriously breathtaking. 

The leaves were incredible, and with every turn I was exclaiming and snapping pictures of the way the light filtered through the leaves like a kaleidoscope and cast crazy shadows. The morning was perfect, just cool enough, and the sky was a deep, clear blue. We explored a swamp across the street as well, listening to the wind rustle through the willows.


Our plan was to cross the river and head back to Sleepy Hollow for a kerosene lantern tour of the Old Dutch Church Cemetery. We went early and found out a Halloween festival was happening, so we explored the cemetery by day and ran into the Headless Horseman and got to see the Headless Horseman Bridge. In spite of the lore that goes along with the town, and the street signs with the horseman depicted at the top, it wasn't as touristy as I expected-- not like Salem, which I also loved in spite of the witches on every corner.

The bridge 

Old Dutch Cemetery 

Our feelings about being there 

The Headless Horseman

Old Dutch Church of lore 

Me by THE Headless Horseman Bridge 

Horseman sculpture 

Being cheesy with the Horseman's Hollow haunted house stuff 

The little town was quite lovely, and the day was perfect. We walked up and down the streets and explored, and went to the Sleepy Hollow Lighthouse, which made my day. I don't know why I have this thing with lighthouses, and this one was pretty small, but it was still worth the walk.

Lighthouse

Relaxing at the lighthouse in Sleepy Hollow 

That evening, we bundled up in layers-- it was much colder than I anticipated-- and grabbed our kerosene lantern for the tour. It was a walking tour through the cemetery and took us until midnight, which was very spooky. The tour in general was historical and fascinating, and walking through the cemetery at night was more peaceful than unsettling. Some of those dead rich men had some crazy things to prove with the giant mausoleums they erected, and one man even put a statue of an attractive woman on his tomb so that she is trapped there, immortalized in tears for him. Insecure much? We got to see Irving's gravestone, and had a confused moment of "What's he doing here?" when we saw Andrew Carnegie's name on a grave up there. Apparently that was where he chose to be laid to rest and not Pittsburgh, where everything is named after him. I highly recommend this tour as well-- our guide did a fantastic job, and the lantern was a big selling point for me. It was all very old-timey, which may be why I am into the lighthouses as well.

Ready for our guided cemetery tour 

Lantern in hand 

Washington Irving's grave-- his headstone was stolen twice!

Sunday, we wanted to go for a hike but woke to a torrential downpour and the Hudson crashing against the shore like we were at the ocean, so we ended up heading home. About halfway through the rolling hills of Pennsylvania, we came across a waterfall gushing over the road, and a mountain with the most exquisitely colored trees and a fog, so we pulled over to grab some pictures and just appreciate the sheer beauty of God's creation. The whole weekend was very much that-- stepping back, almost as if into another time, and allowing ourselves to walk and experience and live in nature with gratitude and awe of the entirety of it.

Mount Bethel 

Our trusty steed

If you decide to go, or have been, let me know! I'd love to go back some day.

Into the Woods

We went into the woods to get away from it all...

I am paraphrasing Thoreau here, very loosely, but his quote about living deliberately in the midst of nature was rolling through my mind during the few days we were there. Even though I was off all summer, I was surrounded by noise: car horns, power tools, barking dogs, televisions, people loudly having speakerphone conversations, media, etc. In the woods, there are noises too, but they're the kind that lull you rather than irritate you-- birds chirping, leaves rustling, water trickling.

We usually go cabining in the winter. There is something so incredibly peaceful about being in the middle of nowhere listening to the whisper of snow coating the woods. I love the ice-covered trails and the crackle of the fireplace while we play games over a glass of something mulled and clove-scented.

In August, it is so green. The light was filtered through trees that we're used to seeing stripped of all but a layer of snow. We arrived late in the afternoon on Friday and cooked hot dogs over the fire and enjoyed the hot tub as the sun went down.

Ambiance of a citronella candle 😆

Even though we didn't use the fireplace, I still love how it looks. 

Arrived at last!

We rent from the same people every time we go out, and now it is extra special because it's where we got engaged. Saturday, we woke up ready to do some hiking. We went to the Cantwell Cliffs, which is an area of the park we'd never been to before. As we started the descent to the trail, everyone was coming up out of breath and soaked in sweat, which caused us to exchange a somewhat nervous glance.

From the top of the gorge, the cliffs were beautiful. I leaned over a gap to take a cool shot and my pocket knife (a birthday gift from Shelley) jumped out of my pocket and right down. I tried to play it off but we ended up scrambling down and around the base to try and find it. A kind couple stopped to ask what we'd lost, and the wife-- a true Good Samaritan-- climbed into the wedge to get my knife, and sent it clattering down to where we stood waiting beside her husband (who was happy to take a break!). I was so excited that it wasn't lost!

Playing off the fact that I just lost my pocket knife

Into the canyon

Shelley was freaking out about me being at the edge of the cliff. 

View from the bottom-- before we headed to the top again!

Best hiking partner ever!

Delicious!

Charcuterie board of goodness

On our way back from the hike, we saw a local winery and decided to stop there for a tasting and some charcuterie. Every wine was made right there, and the atmosphere was everything I adore: outdoors, twinkle lights, and the love of my life. They also sold chocolate truffles, so we had a cherry and a campfire one (our favorite flavors) to pair with the dessert wine. 

Winery Vibes 

The Torch Master 

That night, we had booked a torchlit canoe trip, which was pretty adventurous for us since we'd only been canoeing one other time together. While we were waiting, we met a family who was from the exact town we live in and ended up talking to them. It was nice to talk to kind strangers over the course of the day. I feel like in our day-to-day lives, we are often so caught up in what we have to do that we fail to make contact with other people unless we already know them. People are generally good, I think, and in spite of the crazy, horrible tragedies that had taken place right before we went into the woods, it's important to remember that.

Crazy faces as we tried not to hit any more canoes!

We are not skilled at canoeing, we learned. I was in the back-- the space for the more experienced one-- but I do not have much upper body strength so I was having a hard time keeping us on course. I found this hilarious. We ended up brushing against trees, spinning in circles, and hitting other canoes.

Shelley was less amused.

Near the end, we figured out what we were doing enough that we stayed on course, although we were the last canoe to finish up the five mile trip down the river and make it to shore.

I enjoyed being out on the river in spite of the struggles. It was so beautiful to see this row of canoes lit by nothing but torches and the moon (and the occasional glow stick) and hear the water lapping against the oars and people having murmured conversations.

After all of the adventure of the day before, Sunday was indeed a day of rest. We went to a petting zoo in the area in the morning and spent the rest of the day relaxing at the cabin.

I may or may not want a baby goat now...

This goat was named Greg, which we thought was so funny. He was a huge fan of Shelley and kept following her around. 

This one had ears like Zorro.

Who knew goats were so cute?

This horse couldn't have been less interested in me.

I had a couple of things I wanted to do while I was out there, including make s'mores and play guitar by the fire, so I was super excited to be able to do both on Sunday evening. 

Side note-- if you are looking for a solid hiking boot, I can't recommend Sorel enough. I got mine from Backcountry but they sell them everywhere. They're sturdy, waterproof, and slip resistant, which is huge 1) if you know me at all and 2) for hiking, say, slippery cliffs.

Making s'mores 

Playing guitar! 

Waking up on Monday was bittersweet. I am so grateful to have had the chance to go out for a last summer hurrah and have so many positive experiences together. It was weird to be back and hear power tools pretty much immediately upon returning-- definitely didn't miss that. Next time, maybe we will be brave enough to camp in our tent! 

Morning Views 

Little J Headbands

Fun colors!

If you've followed me for any amount of time here or on Instagram, you know I love a good hair accessory to add some pizzazz to a braid. I'm also a fan of small businesses and donating to a great cause.

Little J Headbands meets all of the criteria. I got one of their headbands a couple of years ago and recently added to my collection. There are a ton of color options and each headband allows you to customize the buttons by choosing from gold, brass, silver, or pewter, so no two are alike! If headbands aren't really your thing, they also have some cute scarf options as well.

Cute packaging (and yes, a pumpkin candle)

The creator, Julie, made Little J Headbands with the idea that even a little change can make a big difference. I am a huge fan of that, and it's something I try to convey all of the time. No one person is capable of enormous change individually, but the ripple effect of multiple people spreading kindness and consciousness makes a huge difference. A portion of each headband purchased goes towards ALS research. About 15 people a day are diagnosed with ALS in the U.S. alone!

Glacier blue with a woven fishtail

In addition to giving back, these headbands are versatile. My favorite way to wear them is woven into my hair/a braid, but I'll be trying some other ways out as well. The sage, burnt spice, and wine will be perfect for the fall (hurry up already), and I am looking forward to pairing them with sweaters once the weather gets cooler. The glacier color is a perfect match to the summer sky but is my favorite shade of blue so I'll weave it into my braids through winter too.

Be sure to follow along on Instagram @mydaintybeautifullife (if you don't already!) to see the ways I style these fun headbands, and let me know if you check them out!

Top Five Summer Favorites

July is nearly over, but there's still a good month of summer vacation left, so I wanted to share some of my summer favorites with you! This time of year is always pretty low-key for me. I spend a lot of time reading or lounging by the pool (cliché, I know), so most of my faves will be based around that. Light your sun-drenched linen candle (which smells like summer at my Nunny's house) and enjoy!

1) Five Minute Journal: I LOVE this thing. I write in it every morning and every night, and it takes literally five minutes of your life. A few posts back, I talked about my struggle with anxiety. One of the things that I kept hearing about as a way to combat that was gratitude, and while I'm not going to say I am not anxious at all anymore, it's definitely toned down a lot. In the morning, under the inspirational quote or weekly challenge, I have to start my day by listing three things I am grateful for-- and I try to really think outside the box on this. Then I write three things that would make that day great. Sometimes it's "eat healthy and work out" or "don't be anxious" or just "being creative". Then I write daily affirmations to instill positive thinking. At night, I write about three amazing things that happened to me and then one way I could've made the day better. Again, this isn't always earth-shattering stuff. Not every day is me getting engaged at a waterfall or parasailing or something, but the point is appreciating the day-to-day and finding joy in the little moments.

2) DIFF sunnies: I've had my DIFF sunglasses for a couple of years now, and while my exact pair is no longer available, there are other cute style options for different face shapes, as well as blue light and prescription glasses (and a collaboration with the lovely JVN). I wear mine every time we go to the pool. The blue polarized lenses are wonderful, and each pair of glasses is made with one piece of acetate, so they're super flexible as well. With each pair purchased, DIFF makes a DIFFerence (haha) by providing eye exams, glasses, and surgery to people around the world who cannot afford eye care. According to their website, they've provided over a million pairs to date. They're less expensive than designer glasses, and you're giving to a good cause! As someone with atrocious vision, I understand how monumental it is to be able to see and ensure someone else can as well.

3) Summer of '69: Two of my friends and I have an on-again, off-again book club, depending on how busy life is. This summer we picked up with two options for July (and only read one so far, haha). This book by Elin Hilderbrand was such an easy summer read. I tend to gravitate towards non-fiction, but I love when books tell stories from multiple perspectives. Each chapter is a member of the family, and it vacillates back and forth as they weave the story of the summer of 1969. I knew I was going to like it when I flipped to the chapter titles and realized they were all named after some of my favorite songs (I am a flower child at heart). It also hit a soft spot for me because it is centered around the Vietnam War, and how the family reacts to the brother/son being over there. My uncle was in Vietnam, and my mum and her other brother & sister and my grandparents had to deal with that and the aftermath. It is one of the wars where people were not excited to go there, they were mistreated when they returned, and they were changed. It puts in perspective how far we've come with veteran care, even though we still have so far to go.

4) "Queer Eye": I was v. late to this train, henny, but after having multiple people tell us how good it was, Shelley and I quickly watched the first three seasons this past spring. Last night, we finally started season four (okay, "finally" is a bit dramatic, as it just came out July 19th). This is so much more than a makeover show. Sure, they might get a haircut, a new outfit, or an updated living space, but it's really about learning to love who you are and how to let that person shine through instead of hiding. It's one of those shows that actually makes you smile as you're watching it. The Fab 5 put things into perspective, teaching the people they meet to find joy in the little things, be true to who they are, and always utilize the French tuck. I'm big on appreciating the small moments and being authentic, so this is a definite favorite.

5) Kingdom & State swimsuit: Okay, I wasn't trying to make three of my five items have a connection to the Fab 5 but when I was researching this option, I learned the company where I got my favorite swimsuit was actually founded by Tan France back in 2011. The swimsuits are stylish but affordable, and they sell clothes as well. I got the Suzie two piece. I love the gingham detail, the old Hollywood silhouette, and the fact that the high waisted bottoms hide my "loves pizza" area without making me look like an overgrown toddler. The one-piece suits are adorable as well, and the quality is good enough that I know I'll be wearing it for years, which is quite something in this world of fast fashion and daily new releases.

Hope you enjoyed reading my summer favorites-- let me know if you try any of them out! I've linked everything except "Queer Eye" because you can find it on Netflix.

Adventuring in Cape May

I don't know what it is about the beach that I find so alluring. I can't really swim, Shelley and I get eaten alive by bugs, I am fair-skinned, and I get very angsty about all that is unseen in the Atlantic Ocean while we're all floating around in there. Sand gets EVERYWHERE. It's hot. It's crowded. And last summer I had jellyfish stings up and down both legs and around my entire left forearm because I must have wandered, unknowingly, into a bloom of them. Waves literally try to push us back to the shore, like, "Hey, we don't want you here!" and we all laugh and bob back in, pushing our wet hair out of our faces and spitting out seawater and seaweed.

Ready to go!

Cape May, New Jersey 

With all of that, it's actually hard for me to believe that I am so drawn to the siren song of those waves ebbing and flowing to the shore, but I love it. I love the vastness of dark blue meeting the lighter blue of the sky. I love the sand underfoot, and all the colors. I love the salty air and the sun and the way my hair just gets wavy and out of control. I love the kitschy boardwalk sweatshirts and shark tooth bracelets. I love the live music and smells of pizza and funnel cake, and I even the people drinking out of coconuts with little umbrellas in them.  

Shameless tourist (AKA me)

This year, as we're trying to save for our wedding, we aren't going on a big vacation like we usually try to do, but we did seize the opportunity for a weekend away at the Jersey shore. We decided to head to Cape May, where neither of us have ever been but a friend recommended. I was drawn in by the images of old Victorian homes, a lighthouse, and Cape May diamonds. 

Selfie with the lighthouse

Shells walking along the beach 

These colors are unreal!

We drove out late Saturday morning and got there around dinnertime. Our first stop was to ride past all of the enormous houses from the late 1800s and walk along the shore. I was admittedly a little wary, still, of jellyfish that may be lurking close to shore, so I didn't get in as deep as Shells did, but I enjoyed it just the same. We climbed along the rocks and watched people play in the surf and ride by in yachts before heading over to the lighthouse (I blame growing up watching "Murder She Wrote" and all the joys of Cabot Cove for my love of lighthouses) and checking it out, along with an abandoned bunker and a lookout from World War II.

V. excited 

Cape May lighthouse 

For dinner, we went for lobster rolls and local IPAs. Our plan was to spend the first night sleeping near the beach, as is our tradition. Luck was not on our side though-- the biggest heat wave in forever was rolling through and it was like 96 degrees. We got a fan, lots of water, and spent much of that night sitting down by the ocean watching people fish (and only catch copious amounts of trash) while we stared at constellations, talked about life, and watched the waves ripple along the shore.

car camping 

We made it to the car eventually and woke up with the sun changing the rainbow-sherbet-colored sky... and woke up to a flat tire. I didn't believe it when Shelley told me, but there it was, like a cartoon drawing. It was already so hot at 6:30am as she put on the spare and we rode out to Walmart when it opened at 7, already 6th in line, just to get a new tire. (Last year in Myrtle, we had to get new brakes-- my car, Arlandria, apparently does not like road trips.)

Up with the sun & this little guy

FOUR HOURS LATER we were back in the car, heading to the beach. We ended up on Sunset Beach after the other two we tried were packed and required pre-bought tags. We slathered ourselves with sunscreen and dragged our folding chairs down the beach to the surf, where we sat with the water washing around our ankles, just basking in having some beach time before we had to leave. The bugs were relentless, and at one point I decided to wade in up to my knees just to get away from them. I was about to take another step when I heard a kid yell out that he'd gotten stung by a jellyfish! I was outta there! Then it happened to a couple other people as well, so Shells and I busied ourselves sifting through sand on the edge of the water and looking for Cape May diamonds. The fish were jumping in and out of the water like crazy, and we even saw some sharks circling in the distance!!!

Cape May diamonds 

Literally covered in sunscreen :D 

On our way back up the coast, we stopped off at Ocean City because Shells wanted to see the boardwalk. We got Mac & Manco's pizza and toured the boardwalk-- mostly ducking in to the air conditioned shops to get away from the 104 degree sun beating on us. The beach was gorgeous though. It was my first beach I ever went to, and I'm happy I got to share it with Shells, even if it was brief!

At the boardwalk

Ocean City, NJ

Still smiling!

Overall, this trip was pretty eventful-- more than we would've liked, I think-- but I am happy that we were able to look on the bright side, smile, and enjoy our time together at the shore. 

Home sweet home!

Where I've Been

This is one of those posts I've been turning around and writing mentally for a couple of months now.

I have always been two things: a voracious reader, and a cautious person who goes through bouts of free-spiritedness.

When I was a child, I would read books faster than my mum could get them for me. I would finish them within a day and then be clambering around looking for something else to read-- anything I could get my hands on, whether it was the same book so many times I had it memorized, or the outdated, incomplete encyclopedias in my grandma's garage, or my mum's EMT book (a personal favorite for the morbidly curious).

I also spent a lot of time around adults-- listening to their conversations and soaking everything in like a sponge. I have said before that I related better to adults than people my own age, so I would overhear their conversations and process them. This gave me an edge intellectually and also gave me empathy and compassion for all people. As I have gotten older, though, I feel like some memories of those conversations about so-and-so who passed or so-and-so who has this or that illness has sort of moved to the forefront of my mind.

The older we get, the more aware we are of our own immortality. This can be a blessing or a curse. Children have no notion of mortality, and they live every moment freely and fully. Adults tend to think of things in terms of safety, regret, and fear.

I have anxiety. I am a hypochondriac. I have always had tendencies in this realm-- doing everything in my power not to throw up, fearing any ache as something permanent and awful, flashing back to the medical books I snuck reading as a kid. As I have gotten older, though, and new randomness develops (who knew 30 would be quite so different from 20-- why are certain amusement park rights actually just kind of unpleasant now, for example?), I find that increases. As I become more aware of things-- in the news, from people I know, or people of people I know-- I have a hard time not jumping to the worst case scenario.

Over the last couple of years, this has gotten worse periodically, and then recently was to the point where I was in my own head about a headache I had for four days and I was convinced I was dying-- turns out I had a pinched nerve. I spent so much time in my own head over the last year or so that I wasn't being fully present in anything, which is unfair to the people I love and to myself. I would be distracted with compulsively checking things and worrying myself into a tizzy.

One day, I was reading this book called Present Over Perfect, with this water in the background and these white Converse in the center. I have been picking it up and putting it down for a while, every time I would go to the bookstore or see it at Target. Finally, I downloaded it and started reading it and felt I found a kindred spirit. This book is one of those books where you read a chapter or two and stop, not because it isn't good enough to plow through in one sitting, but because it feels like a friendship and you want to savor it. That is the highest praise I can give a book. In it, the author talks about being present over perfect-- how we don't allow ourselves the freedom to live because we worry so much about being perfect that we hold back and don't allow ourselves to be fully present in every moment.

Anxiety makes people feel out of control, and that is the issue-- things we cannot or will not ever be able to control plague our thoughts and we get so caught up in that that we aren't living. I listened to a talk by Brene Brown where she said that joy is the ultimate vulnerability (check it out on Netflix-- she is actually funny). We are always afraid of the other shoe dropping, that things are too good to be true, and so we get hung up in worry and don't allow ourselves to be vulnerable and experience true joy without any fear. I was talking to a friend who said once she got married, her anxiety was worse because of love-- she had more to lose-- and that hit me too, because that is how I feel as well. I am so grateful for the people and experiences in my life, and I know I cannot preserve everything as is forever, but damn, I'd like to try.

I have been reading and talking and meditating (trying to, anyway). I have been praying, a lot, and organizing my life. I have been focusing on being present over perfect, which required a bit of a disconnect from blogging or sharing much (or any) of my life, because I didn't feel I had anything worth sharing.

The more I talk to people, though, the more I realize that everyone is experiencing something, and many people are anxious about similar things, and we are not alone in overcoming this. Everyone is here to share a part of themselves, and even though we may feel that we have nothing new or unique to offer, we do because of who we are as individuals.

I am getting back to what makes me ME-- I am a creator, inspired by the ultimate Creator, and I am going to be present, and never perfect, but raw and vulnerable and beautiful because of it. I encourage you to do the same thing.

I am not sure how I want to use this space yet, but I am thinking that the way I initially intended it-- to share causes and places and people I believe in, to be the bright side of this little corner of the internet-- may be the best way.